The Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino attempts to explain what it feels like to live with a debilitating disease, in her case, Lupus. In my mother’s case, it was Multiple Sclerosis. The challenge is trying to manage the number of “spoons” a person happens to have on any given day and the tough choices that go along with doing so. The analogy is excellent, and it helps one realize that the associated fatigue and limitations that accompany so many of these conditions are very real.
The decision to age in place is a significant one. Ironically, whereas skilled in-home care is often covered by insurance, policies such as Medicare are limited in their coverage of more routine in-home services. Medicare will not cover, “Personal care given by home health aides like bathing, dressing, and using the bathroom when this is the only care you need.” Therefore, before deciding whether a loved one can age in place, consider the assistance (s)he may need and whether the family will pay out-of-pocket or be eligible for insurance coverage. Utilize adaptive clothing and make simple modifications to the home to make daily living easier. Ensure the person has easy access to help if needed. Overall, while the benefits to aging in place are many, there are financial costs to be considered and adequate planning is a must!
Making an older person’s home safer used to just mean adding grab bars in the bathroom or a hospital bed. But many people planning to “age in place” want more than simple function; they want beautiful design. They don’t want their home to feel institutional. This article in The Huffington Post discusses a wide range of options to make your home safer without sacrificing style.
When you are ill life seems so unfair. Why me, what have I done? The truth is nothing. Life has a way of doing what it is going to do. Try to look at life as the cup is half full and not half empty. I know that is a tall order. But each day try to smile a bit more than the day before. Try to laugh a bit harder then the day before. I believe we can't always change what life brings us. But we can change the way we look at it. Each and every life is something special. Remember that. Smile and laugh more. Trust me, it can't hurt and it might even help.